"Obviously, no one sits down and makes a rational decision about who to fall in love with, but I get frustrated with the veiled condescension of straight people who believe that queers “can’t help it,” and thus should be treated with tolerance and pity. To say “I was born this way” is to apologize for the person I am and for whom I love. It’s like saying I would be different if I could. I wouldn’t."
Lindsay Miller (Autostraddle — On What It Means To Say You Were Born This Gay)
This has been something that has always infuriated me. Okay, so maybe I was born this way. Looking back on my life, I’ve been attracted to women pretty consistently since I was young, that just wasn’t how I thought of it at first. So? Does that make it better than if I chose to be like this? Less troublesome for someone who is threatened by that idea, that there are people who choose to be different, to voluntarily stray from the norm. Because it means that the norm is only the norm because you say so, not because of any science or great powerful thing or logic. And that can be a scary realization, how shaky the things that define your existence are.